I'M OKAY, YOU'RE OKAY

The passion for setting people right is, itself, a dis-ease with the self. - Marianne Moore

Many of us have a need to be right.  Usually this stems from the inner cry, "There is something wrong with me."  We then set out to make ourselves right by making someone else wrong.  We may plan what to say.  We may canvass others to elicit their support.  In some cases, we simply attack, letting others know how wrong they are and why we think so.  Self-righteousness is an affliction.  It is an inner desire to be accepted and valued.  It is a camouflage for feelings of worthlessness.  No matter how wrong another may be, it will never make you right.  Self-value, self-worth and self-esteem cannot come as a result of being the only right one.  It must come from knowing who you are from within and feeling good about it.  Europeans being wrong will not make African people right.  Women being wrong will not make men right.  White people being wrong will not make Native Americans right.  We must get right with ourselves.  Once, we do, we will have so much to do, we will not have time to keep track of who is wrong. I'm okay, you're okay, let's get to work. From Acts of Faith by Iyanla Vanzant