It can be challenging to forgive someone. The hardest person to forgive may be you. Considering what you know about yourself and what you are capable of, there are times when you cannot forgive things you have done. At times, it is hard to believe that you can forgive yourself; that you deserve to be forgiven or, that you are worthy of forgiveness. For some reason, you mistakenly believe that to forgive means to allow or to say it is okay. Most of us will never allow ourselves to get away with anything without being punished.
It is cruel and unnecessary to punish yourself for being human. As human beings, our growth, learning and healing are always at stake. Forgiveness fosters all three. Each of your actions is motivated either by something you are ready to receive or something you are ready to release. Detrimental or dishonorable actions usually mean that you are ready to release something. Some false, limiting or unloving belief. Some unreasonable fear. Your actions will demonstrate how and why the belief no longer serves you. Your actions will demonstrate where you need to grow; what you are ready to learn or; what you are ready to heal. When you forgive yourself for believing you deserve to be punished, growth occurs, learning takes place and healing is the result. Punishment rarely fosters learning. In fact, it is the precursor to control. When you forgive yourself you release fear, eliminating the possibility that fear will continue to control your behavior.
Until today, you may have found that it was very difficult to forgive yourself for certain behaviors you have engaged in or certain actions you have taken. Just for today, be willing to grow, learn and heal yourself. Prepare yourself to release the fear that controls your mind. Forgive yourself.
Today, I am devoted to creating a divine growing, learning and healing opportunity with self-forgiveness!
From Until Today!
by Iyanla Vanzant
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